By Joseph Cancelmo
Who makes the rules? Society says we should do this or that – you grow up, go to school, meet someone you love, date and eventually get married, or move on and repeat the process till you find the “right person.” Mothers have guided daughters, and father their sons. You learn from your mistakes and move on, hoping for the best.
Then came the media and Internet where nothing is sacred, and you see all the shows on Oprah. Back in the day it was the Donahue show … let’s not talk about the Jerry Springer Show. Most recently, the Supreme Court.
You’re living your life like you are supposed to and your children are doing the same, but one day your adult child comes home and has to tell you, or you figured it out, that they prefer same-sex relationships, and not the “conventional Christian” “Boy Girl” kind. So what do you do? There are two options: A. the original Garden of Eden Special – leave in shame and figure it out on your own, or B. the “conventional Christian” option and forgive and move on. Most families pick B.
This being said, you figure out a plan and you live your life the way you want, the way the others have for centuries, only now there is Facebook et al. There are those “Others” who gape and stare and point foul like a bad horror movie of nonconformists and it goes all the way to the Supreme Court and builds like a tsunami and the water never crashes. These very people, gay couples, important tax payers, sometimes known as D.I.N.K.S (Double Income No Kids) watch, listen and read as what appeared to be the Supreme Court regretting taking the case.
In reality, most gay couples who want to marry are not out to destroy the sanctity of marriage; it’s recognition, respecting the values they were taught by loving parents. Why, following the conventional society rules, should they be denied what their parents and other siblings have? Gay people do not choose to be gay; they merely choose to live the truth of who they are, as they were taught by their parents. Since no same sex couple can procreate, only heterosexuals create homosexual offspring. Age old question: “Mommy, who did Cain and Able sleep with to have Babies?”
Nine states allow the marriage – the rest of the country turns its heads. Unlike the molesting priests, there is no pay out to be had. Everyone has a gay member in their family, and it is not a feel-bad situation for them. Many “straights” have danced and celebrated these unions, but then it’s back home and hush up, or share the wonderful day with your friends and coworkers.
Supreme Court Justice Samuel Alito also seemed disinclined to move too fast on gay marriage, stressing that it’s a new concept that should be tested for its impact on society. “Traditional marriage has been around for thousands of years. Same-sex marriage is very new,” he said to U.S. Solicitor General Donald Verrilli. “But you want us to step in and render a decision based on an assessment of the effects of this institution, which is newer than cell phones or the Internet?”
Edie Windsor is 83 years old and had 42 happy years with the love of her life Thia. The two were married. But when she died in 2009, Edie got hit with almost $400,000 in federal estate taxes – a penalty she would not have had to pay, if she was married to a man.
According to Wikipedia, In 1869 the proposed Fifteenth Amendment to the United States Constitution, which gave the vote to black men, split the movement. Campaigners such as Susan B. Anthony and Elizabeth Cady Stanton refused to endorse the amendment, as it did not give the vote to women. Others, such as Lucy Stone and Julia Ward Howe, argued that if black men were enfranchised, it would help women achieve their goal. The conflict caused two organizations to emerge, the National Woman Suffrage Association, which campaigned for women’s suffrage at a federal level as well as for married women to be given property rights, and the American Woman Suffrage Association, which aimed to secure women’s suffrage through state legislation. The groups merged and after 1900 made a new argument to the effect that women’s alleged superior characteristics, especially purity, immunity from corruption and concern with children and local issues, made their votes essential to promoting the reforms of the Progressive Era. Women’s contributions to American participation in the First World War (1917–18) gave the impetus for final victory. Finally, culminating in 1920 with the passage of the Nineteenth Amendment to the United States Constitution, which provided: “The right of citizens of the United States to vote shall not be denied or abridged by the United States or by any State on account of sex.”
Bottom line – no social media and hand-written books took the US Government 51 years to let women vote. Were they wrong to do that? Never mind basic Civil Rights, that’s the next story …